The Power of Imagination,
A Parent
Remembers
The music
swells, a joyful Native American flute
ballad. My soul sours as I stand on the
mountain's crest gazing at the lush
valley that spreads out before me. I am
keeping vigil in a wildflower garden.
The wind gently blows, a small stream
trickles by, I am free. . .
"Mommy, I need another
juiceeee pleeeeaase!” it's a sweet small
voice, although loudly insistent, that
interrupts my reverie and jolts me back
to the reality of the dishes in the
sink. I am all too aware presently of
the children running wildly through the
living room, galloping on stick unicorns
and calling, rather harshly in my
opinion, to the fairies the forest. My
heart is slightly saddened at the loss
of my mountain top vision and I gaze
longingly as the beauty sinks and
disappears beneath the bubbles at my
fingertips, getting further and further
blurred as my attention is pulled back
to the pandemonium of a children's play
date.
My mind instantly shifts, automatically
embracing duty. I glance at the clock
and begin my mental checklist of
organization, my brain's neurons seem to
roll up their sleeves and announce "time
to get to work!” 15 minutes to prepare
lunch (do I have enough peanut butter
for 3 or 4 sandwiches), 30 min. to eat,
I'll give the kids10 min after lunch to
play while I pack the craft bag for my
younger daughter, find ballet shoes
upstairs, snatch leotard from the
laundry basket, grab extra juicees, shut
doggie's door, remind older daughter to
grab violin and music, return playmates
home, hop in car and buzz off to the
afternoon lessons. Another summer
afternoon slips by. . .And the gentle
flute music is lost, transformed into
mere background noise.
Sound familiar? As a parent, have you
ever felt longing for the mystical, for
the luxury of frolicking about a little
longer in your imagination? Felt the
need, at times, to dust the cobwebs off
your magic carpet to fly away to
Neverland? Wanted to ask for an infusion
of Alice in Wonderland in your morning
coffee, (or Harry Potter if he's more
your style)? Sometimes my mind wants the
broom to fly or my own bath bubbles to
glow with sparkly stars and glitter. You
know that you've really hit an
imaginative play drought when you enter
a long negotiation with your
three-year-old regarding whether the big
people's bathroom or the little people's
bathroom gets to house the tub crayons
and frothy colorful bath mouse on
Mondays and Wednesdays.
Don't misunderstand me. I totally
adore the bustling of kid activities
that comes with two growing, playful
children. I get excited at the prospect
of school talent nights and have trouble
sleeping with anticipation the night
before Christmas. But, sometimes life
moves soo fast and my mind gets caught
up in deadlines or is distracted by the
fact that my feet are sticking to the
kitchen floor again. Sometimes I yearn
for tools to infuse the mystical
experience within my imagination back
into my life, sometimes I long for mind
travel. In the midst of running about, I
recognize my need for peace, for beauty,
for connecting with what is eternal in
me. Chances are, my children, and my
husband too, recognize and feel that
need in me as well, as I am certain they
are able to sense when I have lost my
way and become overly preoccupied with
what's for dinner and who spilled.
What I have found when I look
closely, is that children are my
greatest instructors on the important
parts of life, the parts that make my
heart and soul sing with remembrance and
well being. As I watch them, I see that
their play and use of the imagination is
so natural, so effortless. They are
quickly inspired by nature's beauty and
attentive to the details of life that
are majestic. They play and feel with
their whole hearts, laughing and crying
with connection from the inside. As
youngsters, they seem to inherently know
that beauty comes from within. I wonder
to my self, why does it seem as if, as
an adult, I need to learn these things?
Well, it's not learning really, as much
as it is remembering the essential. The
fun and peacefulness that makes up the
essential, seems to have been lost
somewhere in my adulthood amidst the
dirty laundry and the deadlines at work.
Watching my kids play, learn, and
breathe life in it's fullest, I got to
thinking. What if I dedicate my time to
helping them remember the essentials
found in their imaginations as they
grow, to helping them take the beauty of
their imagination with them as they
continue along life's journey. I want
them to remember the wonder they
experienced when they encountered a
ladybug or a callerpitter, as my
daughter would say. I want them to grow
with confidence and to learn to look
within their own hearts for strength and
guidance. I want them to know that when
we realize the true beauty inside our
own hearts, we are able to recognize it
in all we see outside, even in the
challenges or in people that are not
acting from love or beauty. What if I,
as a parent, begin to show them tools
that will empower them to stand strong
in the midst of life's biggest
challenges, tools that empower them to
feel confident, that empower them to
connect peacefully to the essential
within their nature no matter where they
are, no matter what the circumstance. I
can start by showing them the way I
choose to show up each day, each moment,
I can start showing them that I do
remember the essential things in life. I
can start by showing them that I make
mistakes, but that I have the power
within me to make things right again and
to face the dark moments with the same
strength that I face the light ones.
What I can do is to live these
principles and find ways to infuse them
into my adult life and my life as a
parent.
What I have had to learn as an adult
is that play, imagination, and
relaxation are friends that hold hands.
They are friends that can fit into any
pocket and they are friends that I can
play with, should I choose to invite
them, in any moment. Just because I am
BIG, doesn't mean that I have to lose
the magic of childhood, I just learn to
incorporate the magic in different ways,
ways that empower, strengthen, and
reinforce my knowledge of my inner self.
So, after I realized all these
things, I was standing at a crossroads,
a moment in which I knew that I must
search out the tools and develop my own
tools that would assist me in sending
and living these messages. I would need
to pack my parental backpack with tools
that would connect play, imagination,
and peace. I sensed that by
incorporating these messages into my
life and embarking on a comprehensive
journey of the imagination, I would be
transformed as both parent and person.
What I didn't understand fully was that
spiritually, in this exploration and use
of tools, I would begin to establish a
stronger connection with Divine Love,
with God, and with the world around me.
This journey would transform me from a
parent obsessed with meeting deadlines
and conquering goals into one that was
relaxed, had faith in the power of the
present moment and one who had begun to
understand the concept of surrender. As
I started to use the tools that were
beginning to become available to me, I
began to feel a stronger sense of
parental intuition and my relationship
with my children grew on many levels. I
felt, as a parent, I had begun the
metamorphosis from catterpillar to
butterfly. Of course, life has never
been about final destinations, we are
growing every step of the way and my
life, as a parent is no exception. Peace
is a moment-by-moment choice, not found
at the end of the rainbow, but in the
rainbow at the center of each of us. As
I began to connect with my own inner
rainbow, I became strong so that I could
help my own children to connect with
their inner rainbows as well. At the
same time, I became more playful,
imaginative, as well. Walk the talk took
on new, empowered meaning and I began to
face the creative challenge head on with
enthusiastic anticipation. Adventures
Within was born from the sparks of light
ignited from all of these desires: to
become a more empowered, centered
peaceful parent who was able to guide my
children in holding onto their inherent
creative, imaginative, playful, inner
strength. It is my passionate hope that
the experience of adventures within
empowers both adults and children alike
to connect with their own inner rainbows
as they playfully cross the colorful
bridge which links the heart and
imagination.
©2005, Adventures Within, LLC.
Article by Jennifer Jazwierska, Ed.S.,
NCSP