~Frances Hodgson Burnett, The Secret Garden
I love Frances Hodgson Burnett’s The Secret Garden, (available on Amazon) . I get goosebumps just thinking about the chapter where Mary follows the bird to find the key to unlock the forgotten garden! As Mary follows the robin to uncover the key in the soil, it reads, “it looked like an old key, buried a long time.” Oh, how I have experienced resistance to my own willingness to relax be kind of like that buried key: buried by the busyness, “to do” lists, or the distraction of my mind. Our kids can be experiencing the same– distracted by the busyness or the world around them, the noise within their heads, or some other discontent within their bodies. Sometimes, like in my house, it can be some sort of digital device that is doing all the distracting.
Quieting the body and the mind leads us to the secret garden of our hearts. Finding the key that works for each of us is what it is all about.
For some, like in my daughter’s case, it’s intense physical activity. When she found running, it was the first time her body was actually able to get a handle on her anxious thoughts. While she continues to run, she is now moving into more direct relaxation practices,but she needed to get back in her body and connect with it first.
For other kids, it can be some form of yoga or stretching that holds the key to deeper relaxation. For others, deep breathing or guided imagery or music. Whatever holds the key to deeper heart connection, brings effortless joy into life. That key to our deepest. most replenishing, rejuvenating, relaxation is letting go, quieting the mind so that we can be nurtured by our inner spirit, by the silence within us, by that place that just IS and doesn’t require anything in order to BE. Ahhhhh, it’s that sense of joy and complete peaceful wellbeing that sometimes visits me when I see a sunset, look at the stars, or walk barefoot while inhaling the essence of the woods.
One of the ways that I like to help both my adult and children clients connect with their hearts is through the use of relaxation scripts. They have the power, should I be open and willing, to take me to my own inner secret garden where all is well, where I feel completely safe and totally at peace. In my inner secret garden, I surrounded by beauty, love and grace, nurtured and always loved. Secret Garden is my version of the “special place” guided visualization. I use it with both adult and children clients to help them connect with the inner wisdom and love within their own hearts, to establish the safety required to completely let go and to deeply surrender to just being, even if just for a moment.
Once the heart is experienced, it is always remembered on some level, regardless of the apparent “forgetting” that is evidenced in our experience of tension and stress or the related behaviors. Help your child to deeply feel at peace. Use this relaxation script to connect within your own heart first, then share it with your child. If you are new to leading relaxation scripts or want some tips on how to deepen your practice, read my previous post 5 Tips On Leading Relaxation Scripts with Kids.
Try it out today! Click on the link below to download the pdf of the script. A recorded version, set to music, is available by clicking the link below. It will take you to the products page of this site where you will see Secret Garden Relaxation, available for $0.99.